The answer to this question lies in the title. If you want to just get by in life then you don’t need a mentor. If on the other hand you want to thrive, then you most certainly need a mentor! The question then becomes when should you get a mentor? The answer is – as soon as possible! Here’s how to find one.
1. Why should you get a mentor?
A mentor helps you to fast track your success by learning and receiving guidance from someone who has done it already. Of course there is merit in making your own mistakes and learning from them but if you can avoid making them in the first place…
Some of my greatest a-ha moments have been revealed to me through the guidance of a mentor. I know for sure that I wouldn’t be where I am now without the mentors who have helped me find my path.
A mentor can take many forms and come in many guises. A chance exchange with a stranger, an inspiring book, a podcast, a lesson in a movie and of course through one-to-one or group coaching. The former experiences can be sporadic and random, the latter is planned and reliable.
Deciding to work with a mentor is a big step and usually a big investment. However, the investment is in yourself and your own growth and progress. Are you valuing yourself enough to invest in someone who can speed your progress? And consider the cost of not investing – years of searching, questioning and trial and error. In the end, the cost of not investing in a mentor is much greater in the long run.
2. Who should you work with?
There are a few points to consider when choosing your ideal mentor.
A. Have they already done what you want to do?
If they have achieved success in your area of interest, be it health, romance, career, money, or whatever else you’re seeking to achieve, they are more likely to know what they are talking about!
B. Do you connect with them?
Is their energy aligned with yours or is there something about them that doesn’t quite feel right?
C. Do other people recommend them?
Who have they worked with and what do they have to say about this person?
D. What level of interaction do you want?
Are you happy to work over Skype or online or do you need a personal face-to-face relationship with your mentor? Is a meeting once a week enough or do you value extra support?
E. What do you expect to get out of the relationship?
If you have a clear idea of what you want to achieve from the mentoring (even if it’s to get greater clarity) you will see greater benefit. Also a mentor is not there to do the work for you. They will advise and support you but ultimately it’s up to you to do the work!
3. When is it time to move on?
After some time working with the same mentor, you’ll find the relationship runs it’s course and you have received all you can from the mentoring. This is to be expected and a natural progression. The question is do you go it alone from here on in or do you need to “upgrade” your mentorship program? The answer lies in your circumstances. You may find that a period without a mentor allows you to implement all you have learnt from your previous mentoring relationship and also to stand on your own two feet.
Seeking advice from a mentor is wise but relying on one is giving away your power. Remember, the purpose is to fast track your success, not to hand over responsibility.
In the end, there will always be other mentors who are a few steps ahead of you who can help you to get where you want to be.
I find that these people always come at the right time. Simply putting an intention out into the Universe for a mentor and a guide will lead you to discover the people who you need most when you need them most. “When the student is ready the teacher will appear.”
Wishing you all the success and happiness you deserve, and more!
Namaste,
Sandra
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